From Him, Not Them: A Young Woman's Guide to Relying on God for Validation, Identity, and Guidance

2026 Selah Award Finalist — Young AdultEver feel like everyone else got the map for life, but you’re still trying to find the right turn?We all want direction—someone to show us where to go and who we're meant to be. But when we rely on people, feelings, or success for guidance, we end up more confused and exhausted than before.I know what it’s like to search for meaning and worth in all the wrong places. After a breakup left me questioning my value, I chased worth through achievements, approval, and appearance—until it led me into an eating disorder.I’m not the only one. For twenty years, I’ve mentored young Christian women wrestling with the same questions: Where do I belong? Who am I, really? Is my identity based on what others think or who God says I am?We search for meaning, worth, and direction in grades, sports, relationships, or social media—none meet our deepest needs. What if we’ve been looking in the wrong place all along?From Him, Not Them is a Christ-centered roadmap for young women navigating the pressure to prove themselves. You'll hear honest stories from girls who’ve struggled with insecurity, people-pleasing, anxiety, and self-doubt—and found a better way forward. You’ll discover:◆ How to stop hustling for approval◆ Why feelings make a terrible GPS◆ The hidden cost of stressing over solutions◆ Why self-sufficiency wears you out◆ The danger of flirting with spiritual darkness◆ How to walk in step with the SpiritA meaningful gift for the young woman in your life—or a book you can read and discuss together.If you're looking for Christian guidance on identity in Christ—or a way to encourage a teen, college student, or young woman in her faith—this book offers truth, grace, and spiritual direction.You don’t have to keep looking outside your relationship with God for what He longs to give you. True security comes from Him, not them. Read more